You’re just about to put dinner out on the table so you ask your pre-schooler to put away his toy trains and join you in the kitchen. He mumbles in response or says nothing at all, but when you head out to the living room, the trains are everywhere.
It happens often with kids around this age. Sometimes interactions aren’t great — you feel you’re struggling to connect with them or that you’re being outright ignored. So what can you do?
Try the UDEC techniqueYelling at your little one hasn’t worked. They might act as though they haven’t heard you at all, or they might swing around their train set a bit more aggressively. At this age, children are becoming more independent. They start tuning out things they don’t want to hear, so try not to get annoyed if you feel you’re being outright ignored.
However, if you’re ready to change technique, try the “up close and personal” UDEC approach.
Why can UDEC be effective?Put simply, you’re taking extra steps to encourage engagement from your child. Repeatedly yelling through a wall can just make them feel as though you’re angry, and the message gets weaker when it’s said over and over.
Taking the stress out of the situation often encourages a more positive response from your child. It keeps the mood a little lighter and has the potential to get our kids on board with whatever we’re asking.
How to respond when your preschooler ignores youIn addition to practising the UDEC approach, the way you phrase your requests can play a big part in triggering the right kind of response.
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Blog written with inspiration from https://parentingplace.nz/.